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My guess is that I would be getting a few congratulatory thumps on the back instead.
My fiancé is not averse to earning less money than me, or becoming a stay-at-home-dad.Here is why: If race was brought out of the equation and I dated an Indian man, it would be considered “appropriate.” However, when I go out with a white man, I am accused of disingenuity and betraying other Indian men who I should have dated instead.If it was not race, but gender that was the issue and I was an Indian man with a white woman, would I be criticized of the same?This begs the question: why is dating within one’s own ethnicity and socio-economic class considered the norm?Moreover, why does it appear incongruous when a white man and an ethnic minority woman are seen together?To a young Tamil Singaporean woman like me, the concept of racism is nothing new or inconceivable.
Nonetheless, it wasn’t until I started going out with my fiancé, who happens to be Caucasian, that I began to see a new side to racial discrimination in Singapore.
Numerous advertisements and the recent Cosmopolitan Singapore controversy are testaments to this.
Perhaps this is why so many people do a double take when they see my fiancé and me out together.
It upsets gender roles that seemingly entitle men to women of the same ethnic group.
As for whether I can be critical of heterosexual white male privilege and date a white man at the same time, I think this isn’t unthinkable if the man in question was aware of his privilege and the fact that his life is significantly easier because of it.
What sorts of power structures and hierarchies does this pairing upset?