Now, I am finding that more and more often, I must double-check my judgment, because “This would make such a good story” is never a good reason, when it’s the only reason, or to discard common sense and hurt other people’s feelings.
One recent email from a Crewbay user said, “I am now on a 42-foot sailboat because of your site, and my life is way much better and I’m way happier now.”Another way to get your foot in the door may be offshore racing, said Andy Turpin, managing editor of Latitude 38, a Northern California sailing publication he described as a “regional magazine that has outgrown its regionality.” It too offers avenues to catching on with a crew, but Turpin also suggests that more experienced sailors might be able to find work with racers in the Pacific Cup, from San Francisco to Oahu; the Trans Pacific Yacht Race, from Los Angeles to Oahu; or the Vic-Maui Yacht Race, from Victoria, Canada, to the 727-square-mile isle.How can I find a situation similar to this, leaving So Cal and ending in Hawaii? Answer: You’ve heard of EHarmony, which matches singles (or so they say) with other singles (ditto)?Welcome to what I’m calling Sea Harmony, a whole world that endeavors to match would-be crew with need-some-crew boats.), whose website says it “matches and connects boat owners and representatives directly online with crew from anywhere to anywhere in the world”; Cruisers Forum.com, which offers, besides its matchmaking service, encyclopedic information about boats and the business of boats; and Crewbay.com, a site that was born so Ollie Wells, its founder, could share his love of sailing and help link those in need of jobs with those who have them.“I was gobsmacked,” said Wells, who lives in Devon, England.From that stint, he graduated to professional crewing, which wasn’t quite as enchanting.It is all very civil, if civil means that someone else does all the work, you get to direct your own activities and no one will ever ask you to polish the vessel.
You won’t get tossed around in a storm — at least, not the way you would on a yacht that’s dwarfed by today’s behemoth cruise ships.
I don’t wish that I was settled and married, like many of my close friends, but I do question my ability to make a committed effort to build just one friendship. “Maybe I am ready to make an effort to put time and energy into one person, try a this whole relationship thing. I guess I won’t know unless I try.” I have a theory, and believe it to be so true. I’m going to continue to enjoy my life, because I am in a good space. And somewhere in-between loving yoga, learning spanish, girls weekends in Waikiki, beach biking, tortilla entreprenuering, and my list, something wonderful will happen…
Lovesail can help you find your perfect sailing partner.
I smile when I think about each, and appreciate them for what they are.
Maybe one day I’ll write about the British guy, the adventure film entrepreneur, or the fighter pilot, but as of now, I am still building my transparently-honest writing muscle, which will possibly be strong enough about the time carpel tunnel sets in.
Wells gave me a look inside this world, foreign to me but a kind of home to him.