It could be that one of you has intense feelings, and the other doesn’t.
If you’re not serious with someone, why see them all the time?Maybe you’re texting one person, but planning a coffee date with another.It’s not wrong; since you’re not tied down, you’re simply screening a list of potential candidates.Now, if the person makes it obvious you’re not even close, and will never meet their friends, it’s never going to get serious. Casual daters don’t usually find themselves sighing on a bench, in a garden, fantasizing about a long, lasting future with someone.The expectation is low, so marriage and family planning aren’t really on the table.Might as well see them on occasion, or maybe regularly, but not most of the time.
The minute you see them too much, you inch closer to something more serious.
Even if it doesn’t pan out, there was a level of seriousness there that reflected commitment—more so than casual dating ever provides.
There’s also the underlying message: love is there.
To build a future, you have to focus on your level of compatibility.
How good of a chance do you really have at making it work for the rest of your lives?
[Read: 16 signs you’re not yet ready for a serious relationship] #2 Odds are, there’s more than one person.