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When looking for love, should you focus on "being what others want" and making yourself appealing?Or, should you focus on "figuring out what you want" and going after the love life you desire? Now, here's where I further cement my place as "The Attraction Doctor" and settle this debate.
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5) Assess your options - Once you know your dating market, you can see who might be interested in an exchange. So, take both into consideration for success in dating and relating. I think being who you are and improving is a fine line, that I, and I'm guessing sometimes others, get confused. What if you think what a certain type of person wants isn't really what they want?
For example, if one went through a trauma that makes them leery of dating do they work on that and become "whole" before they start dating, or will the "right" person understand and accept their hesitance as they work on improving that aspect of themselves? (As it seems opposites do not always attract, nor always repel, if I were to guess an extrovert would want another extrovert I would be right some of the time and not others...) As usual, not expecting an answer/response to all these questions, but I'll take 'em... I think you want to be the best person you can be before you offer yourself to others, but that understanding of "best" has to be based on the person you want to be, not the person you think others want you to be.
When it isn't, at least one eventually chooses to goes elsewhere. Have a clear idea about what you are going to give back to them. It is unrealistic to expect to buy a mansion with pocket-change. All my observations have shown me that not being your true self always fails in the long run.
Going back to the debate above for a moment, we can now see where each good doctors' advice fits. White's notion of "what you want" fits both in the benefits you'd like to receive from a relationship and the satisfaction you expect to derive from it. Rattenberg's notion of "what they want" fits in the costs that you can expect to put into a relationship and perhaps your chances of "picking up" different partners (your dependence level). It can make such nice and tidy sense of this stuff! 3) Check your expectations - Take a good look at what you want versus what you're willing to give. But, it is also foolish to spend a million dollars on a shack. Who cares if you can get the girl by temporarily being self confident, if it isnt already who you are chances are your lack of it will show up in your relationship causing your lady friend to be disapointed,and finally, if its not who you really are why the hell would you want to be with a women who made that a priority?
However, if you cannot reach the goal, then you either need to abandon it, or change. However, if the person is asking for a lot and/or has not developed many other positive qualities, then he/she might have to further become "whole" before he/she can attain the love life desired. To me, "what you hold true to, and what you change" depends on your goals. Even the goal of "be yourself" depends on who you want to be or feel you should be.